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Updated: Jan 9

Happy New Year, Lavenders. Welcome to this glorious year called 2021. I am so glad and excited to welcome you into this incredible year. This year has already been great despite it just starting, and to kick off this beautiful year; I would like to reflect quickly on the five lessons 2020 taught me. I hope you enjoy the post. 

21 in the bible is a symbol of perfection and maturity. 2020 taught all of us a thing or two: the five lessons 2020 taught me. 

21 in the bible is a symbol of perfection and maturity. 2020 taught all of us a thing or two: the five lessons 2020 taught me. 

1. The first lesson is life is not a specific structure. I remember on the 1st of January last year, as I mentioned in my previous blog, I was screaming the year 2020 everywhere because of my excitement to have entered into 2020: a new year, a new decade. Little did we know that 2020 would be a truly unique year. Unique in a way we did not expect. But this is the thing 2020 taught everyone, a thing or two, and we cannot deny it.

2. The second lesson was family matters over everything. 10/12 is 83.3%. This was the percentage of the year I was at home with my family, and I loved every single moment of it. My sisters and I watched a movie every other day during the summer, and I ate my favorite snacks: popcorn, pancakes, and puffs very often. It was truly unique. My room was my favorite place in our house; I spent so much time alone. It was quiet and peaceful. It's a peaceful zone with no drama. It was truly epic. 

3. The third lesson was to put God first above everything and everyone. I know this is a typical lesson, but 2020 taught me this in a new light and level. For the first half of 2020, my priorities were not straight in any area of my life. I was confused, going through different situations with different people; so much happened in the first half of 2020 in my life. But I am thankful for everyone because the year's second half changed my life forever. In an upcoming blog, I will tell you what happened and how my life was transformed. But help me say a prayer of thanksgiving to God for what he did in my life in the second half of last year. 

4. The fourth lesson was to give people their space. If you know me personally, you know I am a texter. I love to text and talk. But not everyone is a texter like me. One of my experiences in early 2020 was having two of my age mates say, "I need my space." There was no filter; they said it to my face when we argued. This brought up many different emotions in me; anger and sadness were the least of them. But this changed my relationship with my friends and family in the year's second half. One of the steps I took to change and improve my communication habits was to cut communication with people who did not text or check up on me regularly. I felt like a burden on them, and so did they; this had to change. In the last few months of last year, I thought deeply about my friendships and relationships and discovered that I was always reaching out first, so I ended this. Respect has been retained and restored in many of my relationships. 

5. The fifth lesson is the importance of self-love and self-respect. Many young females often misinterpret the meaning of self-love and respect, and I was one of them. If you read my blog on self-love, you know what I am talking about. Toluwanimi did not love herself before last year. Self-love is the best kind of love. Self-love is beyond saying you love yourself daily. Self-love is internal. It starts from the inside. To love yourself is to know yourself, and to know yourself is to know your worth, and to know your cost is to understand how people should treat you. 

These were the lessons 2020 taught me. I hope you were able to relate to a thing or two. It was a year, but Lavenders, 2020, is gone forever. Reset your mind and begin to focus on what matters most in life. Once again, Happy New Year Lavenders. May this year be yours. May the year bless you in all areas and aspects of your life, and May the peace and love of Christ be yours. May the kindness of God overshadow you and God's love overwhelm you significantly in the name of Jesus Christ, Our Lord and Savior. Amen. 

HELLO, 2021, GOODBYE 2020. 

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