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Toluwanimi Debayo-Doherty

A Lavender Woman

Updated: Jan 11

Have you ever wondered how a young woman could exhibit all the characteristics of a Lavender simultaneously? Think of how I am becoming and developing into a Lavender Woman. Suppose you have ever wondered how the answer is here. In today's blog post, our curiosity will be answered. I hope you enjoy discovering how. 


There are seven traits of a Lavender: Purity, Silence, Devotion, Caution, Serenity, Grace, and Calmness. No other woman I know exhibited all of these traits simultaneously than Deborah in the Bible. Deborah was the Lavender Woman we all aspired to be. Deborah exhibited each characteristic of a Lavender. It is incredible that we only got to know her through two chapters of the Bible, just TWO. It often sounds like an impossible task for us "Lavenders" to be the Lavender Woman at all times, but if Deborah could do it, we can also.



1. Purity: Deborah was pure. She valued purity. Purity is not just in the sense of keeping her body pure by honoring God but also through her values during a time when the people of Israel were committed to idolatry. She came in as a pure leader, ready to rescue them from their ways and lead them back to God. What areas of your life do you honor God in? What areas of your life are not honoring God as you desire? Deborah valued purity because she honored God. If we claim to love another, we must honor them. 



2. Silence: Deborah was the opposite of silent. She was outspoken and courageous. She was an Agitator. She agitated Israel's concern about its low spiritual concern. As young females growing up in society, we must learn to speak up against the things that stand against God. One of the ways I try to advance the Kingdom of God on the earth is through our Instagram Page: @officiallavenderwoman. Each week, I post godly content that glorifies the name of the Lord. I inspire, influence, and encourage females around the world. John 15:1-2 says, "I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes that it will be even more fruitful". We are the salt of the earth and the light of the world. We must be intentional daily to advocate for our Father's work on the planet. 



3. Devotion: Deborah was devoted to her God. The True Living God. She loved God and knew Him. She never decided or sought out any plan before seeking God's help. She always heard from God to make the best decisions. Many are often amazed by what women do but often do not know that it is the wisdom and guidance of God behind us leading us. As young women growing up, our hearts must be devoted and committed to God. Many young females chase after everything other than God and expect God to make everything work together for their good. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose." God cannot be mocked; He knows those who are His. 



4. Caution: Deborah was mindful of her communication with God. Her excellence in leadership during a time in Israel when God was not acknowledged or known is remarkable. She never got caught up in the negativity and noise and was cautious to hear from her God and discover how to be the best leader. 



5. Serenity: Deborah showed serenity through her marriage. Her husband was described as her biggest supporter. He stood back and let her be "her." He was described as a meek man. Deborah had to be a woman ready to be led and supported. Her man did not threaten her despite being a powerful force. As women, we must always be calm and collected and ready to be led despite being leaders. 



6. Grace: Deborah was a Leader. Not just an ordinary leader but a leader who carried herself with Grace. It was said of Deborah that she was brave from a tender age before she took up her position of Judge in Israel. She held a position that a "female" had never done before. From her story, we learn that Grace is a necessary characteristic of every peanut and determines how honored and respected we are in society. A female who takes up a position like Deborah will always feel the pressure to maintain their position. The most significant factor contributing to this is that "she is a female." Society does not expect a female to be powerful, strong, and brave. When we see a woman who carries herself with Grace and dignity, we admire her, which makes Deborah honored and admired even today. 


7. Calmness: In everything, Deborah trusted in God. She had complete confidence in her God. She had a calm spirit throughout her leadership. It is tough for me to often have solid trust in God when things get tough, but I have learned from Deborah that it is possible if I set my mind to it. I know we all struggle with something, but when our confidence is solid in Christ, anything cannot be shaken. 


If Deborah was a Lavender Woman, you can also be with prayer, determination, and hard work :). I hope you have a great rest of your day and weekend. See you in the next post. 

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