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Updated: Jan 9

Hello Lavenders

Welcome to another blog post; I hope you enjoyed last week's post. Thank you for your excellent comments and feedback. I genuinely appreciate it. Be sure to like, share, comment, and subscribe. I hope you enjoy today's blog; thank you :).

When you hear the word "bitterness," what comes to mind? I think of two people fighting for something, someone, etc. I think of anger, gossip, taking sides, drama, etc. Anger and Bitterness are two of the strongest emotions any human can feel for various reasons. As young females navigating through life during their teenage years, some of the things that cause Bitterness within us are having differences or issues with people our age, our parents, our family members, etc. Some of the things I have been bitter about during my teenage years are fighting over a guy I liked or arguing with my friends or family about something we do not see eye to eye on. But I have learned over these years that there are only a few things worth fighting for in this life. Arguing with people is a part of life. If I told you that every misunderstanding we have is not against the individual we are fighting with but against higher powers. John 10:10 says, "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." The devil capitalizes on every misunderstanding and argument we have with our fellow humans, whether friends, family, people we do not know, etc. 

All humans are our brothers and sisters in Christ. The devil wants to steal your joy. There is happiness and joy in every relationship we have on the earth. Ephesians 6:12 says, "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." As young females, we must cultivate a habit of handling situations and circumstances that arise in life, our lives, and others around us with wisdom. Bitterness stems from anger. Romans 12:18 says, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." Living at peace with all men requires wisdom. As young females, we do not have much experience or enough life experience to live in peace with all men. After having differences with others, one of the biggest struggles is trying to reach out and talk it out, but not coming to a conclusion is hard for me.

I have learned that as long as I do my best and God sees my heart, that is all that matters. What causes you to have anger and Bitterness towards others? I know disagreements are natural, but discovering what causes them and finding solutions is the best way to go in this life journey. Peace with all men is vital and essential as long as it depends on you, so do your best and leave the rest to God. Two of the top symbols a Lavender represents are caution and serenity. The Cambridge Dictionary defines serenity as "the quality of being peaceful and calm." This includes being peaceful in all situations and circumstances, even with differences. 

I want to challenge and encourage you to try your best as long as it depends on you to live in peace with all men. It would help if you had the attribute of serenity to navigate through life peacefully and cautiously. Life is not a perfect road; it has its ups and downs, but what matters the most is your attitude towards circumstances and people. With living at peace with all people comes forgiveness. Colossians 3:13 says, "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you". A bitter heart is a hardened heart, and a hardened heart comes from unforgiveness. Who is it that you have a bitter heart towards, or whatever has caused you to have a bitter heart? I want to challenge you to forgive that person or group of people. Forgiveness is a lifestyle; it is a way of life, and we must begin to embark on this journey of forgiving easily, no matter who or what it is about. 

Thank you so much for reading; God Bless You Greatly. Remember to like, comment, share, and subscribe. If you are reading and do not believe in God, I encourage you to have an open heart and mind and give God a chance to prove himself to you. Please say this prayer: "Heavenly Father, I am a sinner and come to you to ask you to forgive me of my terrible sins. Thank you for dying for my sins and bearing the shame on that Cross so I may have eternal life. Today, I confess with my mouth that I have sinned against you, and believe with my whole heart that Jesus is Lord, and God raised Him from the dead on the third day. He is seated on the Heavenly throne and intercedes on my behalf. I give you my heart, soul, and life and pray that I will obey thy Word. In the precious name of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen." If you just said that prayer, welcome to the family of believers. Congratulations!! Heaven rejoiced; God is so glad and happy to have you in his family. I will be praying for you and your walk with God. Feel free to contact me on the next steps in this new chapter in your life. Just fill out the keep in touch form on the home page, and I will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you once again for reading. God Bless You. Watch out for the next blog next Friday. Have a blessed week, Thank You. 

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