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Family Relationships

Updated: Jan 9

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Have you ever heard the phrase: My parents do not know everything about me; I can handle my life for myself, and I am old enough to make my own decisions? If you have, you already know where this blog is headed. 

These were the three main phrases I heard from or about teens throughout my teenage years. The first one might not be as commonly heard as the others, but I listened a lot. The pressure many teens experience when growing up is surreal. The second one is that I can handle my life for myself. I remember when I was about to turn 13, a few weeks before I turned 13. I was so excited to be becoming a teenager. Everything about teenagehood looked great. I have been able to go out with friends, make my own decisions, etc. The third one: I am old enough to make my own decisions is the most common; if you have not heard this, I assume you have not been around a teenager.

Family Relationships are dynamic, complex, and engaging. Every family is different. The world has different types of families: nuclear, extended, immediate, etc. But whatever the family type you come from, every family has a great family dynamic. Many teens and young adults are known to have complex relationships with their parents for various reasons. For some, it is a personality crash; for others, it is a lack of understanding; for the rest, it is a lack of communication, but whatever the reason might be, it is worth investing our youth into having a great relationship with our family members and parents. A lot of teens often misinterpret having a great relationship with their parents. They think a relationship with family members is living and breathing in the same home and under the same roof. There needs to be more communication and understanding. 

I know a lot of teens who have great relationships with their parents. They are open with their parents; they tell them everything going on in their lives, laugh together, and cry together. Ephesians 6:1-3 says, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise—3 "so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." You might have probably heard these verses before. But do you understand it? As young females navigating through life, it is straightforward to get carried away with life's many distractions. We are trying to discover ourselves, find our purpose, make choices, etc. But the most important thing is that we carry our parents along. The role of our parents in our lives is very significant and profound. Not just because they are our parents but because we were assigned to them by God. My mom often tells me that children who hide things from their parents always walk in a path of destruction. Proverbs 14:12 says, "There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end, it leads to death." It is straightforward to get carried away with the idea that our lives are under control. Setting goals, dreams, and ambitions is knowing where you want to go, and it is not the same as having direction and clarity in life. I have goals, dreams, and ambitions, but I always seek my mom's advice before making decisions. Young females need guidance in life. We need our parents to guide us. The lack of guidance in a teen's life is very evident after a certain period. It is reflected in their choices, their appearance, their choice of words, everything.

Just because you ask for guidance and direction from your parents does not mean you are not wise enough to make your own decisions, but life is better and more manageable when we get advice from adults with experience. Life is a teacher, and experience is the best path to navigate through it. I want to challenge and encourage you today to begin or continue to seek a godly and right relationship with your parents. Parents are essential; with this key, we will avoid severe challenges in the future and need to know how to handle them. Please make sure to make mistakes that can be avoided. Stay close to your parents, and you will be rewarded with a long life. 

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