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Updated: Jan 9

Hello Lavenders,

Welcome to another blog. I hope you enjoyed last week's blog. Thank you for your excellent comments and feedback. I genuinely appreciate it. Be sure to like, share, comment, and subscribe. I hope you enjoy today's blog; thank you :). 

Growing Up, one of my mom's famous phrases was, "Toluwanimi, respect yourself." Anytime I did something that did not meet her expectations, she told me to respect myself. I want to avoid repeating myself after this one. It sounds funny, but this kept me straight while growing up. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, Self-Respect is "a feeling of respect for yourself that shows that you value yourself." self-respect needs to be better understood in our society. Many young females might define self-respect as believing they are better than anyone else. For others, it is carrying yourself confidently but more outwardly in how they walk. For the rest, it is knowing their achievements, talents, gifts, etc., and being proud of them. However, you define self-respect. Self-respect is internal, not outwardly. It is more than your awards, achievements, or thinking you are better than everyone else or a group of people. It is more than knowing your self-worth.

Many young females during their teenage years allow themselves to be disrespected in various ways, such as a young female having a crush on a guy, depending on how well she can handle it. She will either control her emotions or allow her feelings to get the best of her. If her emotions get the best of her, she allows herself to be vulnerable and opens herself to disrespect, such as her crush making fun of her or looking down on her. Another way young females allow themselves to be disrespected is through dress. Have you ever heard the phrase "I dress to kill"? Well, this phrase means different things to different people. For some, it could mean dressing fancy; for others, it could mean wearing the most expensive things in the world; for the rest, it could mean dressing well according to their standards. 

Self-respect starts from the inside. It begins with knowing yourself; when you know yourself, you will have respect for yourself. Self-respect does not come immediately; many know themselves but do not respect themselves. They allow themselves to be disrespected in many ways. Self-respect is knowing your internal man, accepting yourself for who you are, and working on the things you dislike about yourself—your flaws, imperfections, weaknesses. No perfect person is on this earth, and no one can be perfect. But putting daily effort into being a better human being, most notably a child of God, will help you evolve into the person God has called you to become. Self-respect evolves from doing your best daily to being the best you. If we naturally respect successful people, people who work hard for their success, who put in their all to achieve their goals, dreams, and ambitions, then if you put in daily effort to achieve your best self, self-respect should and will come naturally. I want to encourage and challenge you today to reexamine and reevaluate your self-respect definition and begin to walk in the correct definition of it. 

Thank you so much for reading; God Bless You Greatly. Remember to like, comment, share, and subscribe. If you are reading and do not believe in God, I encourage you to have an open heart and mind and give God a chance to prove himself. Please say this prayer: "Heavenly Father, I am a sinner and come to you to ask you to forgive me of my terrible sins. Thank you for dying for my sins and bearing the shame on that Cross so I may have eternal life. Today, I confess with my mouth that I have sinned against you, and believe with my whole heart that Jesus is Lord, and God raised Him from the dead on the third day. He is seated on the Heavenly throne and intercedes on my behalf. I give you my heart, soul, and life and pray that I will obey thy Word. In the precious name of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen." 

If you just said that prayer, welcome to the family of believers. Congratulations!! Heaven rejoiced; God is so glad and happy to have you in his family. I will be praying for you and your walk with God. Feel free to contact me on the next steps in this new chapter in your life. Just fill out the keep in touch form on the home page, and I will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you once again for reading. God Bless You. Watch out for the next blog next Friday. Have a blessed week, Thank You. 

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