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The Importance of a Mentor

Updated: Jan 9

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While growing up, a mentor was one of the most incredible things I lacked. I did not have someone to seek advice from when life was not going smoothly. Many teens often experience this also. The importance of a mentor is a topic that is not discussed often; many young people need guidance and direction in their lives and the desire to have an adult figure to discuss their issues. Parent-children relationships can be very complex and exciting sometimes. Many teens have great relationships with their parents; for the rest, they might not have the best relationship. A mentor in a teen's life is very critical. Every teenager and young adult needs a mentor. Being a teenager is truly an experience. It is an experience lasting seven years with many ups, downs, highs, lows, achievements, struggles, etc. My mom often tells me that "seeking advice from teens your age is not wise." There are three significant dangers any and every teen and young adult can experience without the lack of a mentor.

The first danger is opening up to everyone and anyone they come across. This occurs often among young teens; the problem is they will be led astray. But the deep issue is that 95% of the time, the issue still needs to be solved, and with the correct answer, the wrong move can be made. The second danger is struggling internally. I cannot tell you how many times I have seen teens my age struggle internally and not speak up about their issues. Many teens keep their problems to themselves because they often experience and feel that no one around them will understand. Some teens do not have anyone around them who will understand, but it is just an ideology for some. 

The third and final danger is having too many voices giving opinions that can cause regret and create confusion. I have had a couple of encounters with this last danger, and I can tell you from my experience it is not a great process to go through. Sometimes, the only thing we lack is right in front of us, and I had to learn this sooner rather than later. But many other teens have to experience continuing to receive many opinions because of their surroundings, environment, circumstances, or situations. Whatever the reason, the main point is they have no other choice but to choose this path. There are many different types of mentors; there is often a stereotype that only females need a mentor, but males need mentors, too. A female's life is 100% more delicate than a male's life, and a female often has more to lose than a male, but this does not change the fact that males need mentors, too. The role of a mentor in a teen's life is to help, guide, and correct. Having a mentor does not mean you do not have control over yourself or are not wise enough to handle your life. Having a mentor is having that extra help in your journey of life. For most of my teenage years, I did not have a mentor; a mentor came into my life only a few months after I turned 17. I can tell you that this has changed my life for the better. I have had my fair share of highs and lows throughout my teenage years, but having someone to listen to me constantly and give godly and great advice has been so helpful. 

Life is not a bed of roses; we all need help. We do not have to be experiencing traumas before we ask and seek help. Help is always at the corner; we have to seek after it. If you are a young teen reading this blog and do not have a mentor, I want you to seek one. I have three questions for you: Who is someone in your life that you trust very much? Who is someone in your life who has a fear of God and truly loves God, and who is someone in your life who is not judgmental? Can you think of someone? If you can pray before you reach out to that person, let them know you desire and are currently in need of a mentor, and you would be honored if they became your mentor. If you cannot think of someone and need help finding a mentor, I encourage you to fill out the Keep in Touch form under the contact category on my website. I will do my best to respond promptly and connect you with a mentor; please do not be shy. All you need to do is fill out the form, and help will come your way. Mentors play a vital role in a teenager's life, but we all need one. 

Thank you so much for reading; God Bless You Greatly. Remember to like, comment, share, and subscribe. If you are reading and do not believe in God, I encourage you to have an open heart and mind and give God a chance to prove himself to you. Please say this prayer: "Heavenly Father, I am a sinner and come to you to ask you to forgive me of my terrible sins. Thank you for dying for my sins and bearing the shame on that Cross so I may have eternal life. Today, I confess with my mouth that I have sinned against you, and believe with my whole heart that Jesus is Lord, and God raised Him from the dead on the third day. He is seated on the Heavenly throne and intercedes on my behalf. I give you my heart, soul, and life and pray that I will obey thy Word. In the precious name of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Amen." If you just said that prayer, welcome to the family of believers. Congratulations!! Heaven rejoiced; God is so glad and happy to have you in his family. I will be praying for you and your walk with God. Feel free to contact me on the next steps in this new chapter in your life. Just fill out the keep in touch form on the home page, and I will get back to you as soon as possible. Thank you once again for reading. God Bless You. Watch out for the next blog next Friday. Have a blessed week, Thank You. 

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